Have you ever felt like your spouse doesn’t support your dreams? If so, then you’re going to want to give this a read.
Have you ever heard someone say “My [significant other] is a saint for putting up with my [insert crazy habit here]!” If I said that, it would sound something like this: My husband is a saint for putting up with my over-the-top, ever-changing, high-energy, dreams!” It’s true! I always have the next, great idea, until I have the next, great idea! Some may even call it a problem. Hi, my name is Yesenia and I am a dreamer.
You may be thinking “Is that really a bad thing?” To answer your question, no, it’s not a bad thing that I dream BIG! But up until a few weeks ago, I was under the mistaken impression, that my BIG dreams were a bother (or maybe a minor inconvenience) for my husband.
I know how that sounds, especially since you all know just how amazing Lou is, but bear with me! Let me reassure you from the get-go that Lou supports my dreams 100%. To fully understand the situation, let me give you some background info. See, I am the type of person who thrives when I’m busy. The only time I’m sitting still is when I’m reading and although my body may be still, my brain is moving a mile a minute! I’m taking it all in, I’m learning, I’m processing, and I’m looking for ways to put it into action. So far, so good!
Here’s where it gets dicey. There are times, when my brain moves faster than I can keep up with. In other words, sometimes I move on to the next idea without first finishing the last idea I was working on! And to someone on the outside looking in, [my husband] it can seem scattered and chaotic and definitely hard to keep up with. I’m sure to a lot of people it probably seems that way. But rest assured, there is a method to my madness. Because I have so much going on, it’s inevitable that one of my ventures/dreams will sometimes hang out on the back burner, but never for too long.
The problem here is that I was projecting my dreams onto my husband fully expecting him to get excited, talk about them non-stop, and even work on making them a reality! Here’s the takeaway from this post:
Just because someone doesn’t share your passion, doesn’t mean they can’t fully support your dreams! Don’t push your dreams on to anyone else!
Let me be super clear here, my Husband is my biggest fan! He supports me in every single one of my ventures! He reads every blog post I publish (and proofreads them), every instagram caption I write, he takes endless pictures, he designed my logo for me, and he encourages me and motivates me whenever I need a push! He is my sounding board and even gives me amazing ideas on how to grow! I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for his love and support (and patience)! But writing about motherhood and lifestyle isn’t his passion, it’s mine! Building a business that will empower other Moms to take charge of their dreams is not my husband’s dream, it’s mine! And I have to remember that.
So why am I sharing this with you? I always have a reason, don’t I? 😉 I’ve seen many a post from fellow bloggers and business mamas who are struggling with feeling support from their spouse. I know that every relationship is different, and my advice can only be shared based on my own experience, but I’ve come to understand that the problem was with me and not with my husband. So here are my two cents on the matter!
Don’t Mistake a Difference in Passions for Lack of Support
I did it myself. I totally mistook the fact that my husband and I don’t share in this particular passion as a lack of support. What a big mistake that was! Even though he doesn’t have a passion for writing or sharing publicly to the extent I do, or connecting with other mamas (that would be weird ), that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to see me succeed and build me up! I’ll tell you one thing, ever since I came to this realization, I’ve felt his support immensely! This mindset shift has been life-changing! Blogging doesn’t do it for him like it does for me, and that’s ok! He still wants to see my business take off, even if he would rather watch TV over brainstorming with me for the 100th time on how I can launch my next bright idea! 😉
Make Sure to Reciprocate
Are you being supportive of HIS passions? Because if you’re not, then that’s a problem. It’s so important that you build EACH OTHER up. It’s a two way street and encouraging the other should be high on your list of priorities. Don’t become consumed in your own work and not make time to check in with him and his progress! Don’t just receive support, give support!
Find Your Community
When you have big dreams and you are working hard at making them a reality, it’s so important to surround yourself with like-minded people! Your spouse should definitely be your biggest supporter, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look elsewhere for encouragement! Become a part of a community of mamas who are going through the same struggles, who understand the lingo you’re talking, and who want to see you succeed! I’m so excited to announce that in just a few weeks time (June 3rd), I will be launching a new Community for Mamas looking to build their business and community! I’m totally ready to support your dreams! If you haven’t subscribed to my email list yet, you’ll wanna do so now so that you’ll be the first to know!
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